By Grace Solomon
Every day, Nigerian teenagers scroll through social media and see pictures of perfect faces, designer clothes, luxury cars, expensive schools and vacations abroad. Some see classmates posting from big houses, while others watch influencers living what is often called the “soft life.” Slowly, and without realising it, comparison begins.
Many teens forget that social media does not show real life. People post their best moments, not their struggles. They show parties, not their parents’ worries. They show filters, not their real faces. When a Nigerian teen compares their real life in places like Ajegunle, Ikorodu, Aba or Ibadan to someone’s edited life online, their confidence can begin to fade.
Comparison often makes teens feel inferior. A teen may start asking questions like, “Why don’t I attend a big school like them? ” “Why don’t I have an iPhone? ” or “Why is my family not rich? ” These thoughts can lead to low self-esteem, sadness, anxiety and poor performance in school.
Another danger is the pressure to belong. Some teens begin to pressure their parents for expensive phones, clothes or constant data just to fit in. Others feel ashamed of their background or lie about their family’s situation. Instead of being proud of who they are, they try to become someone else.
Social media also creates fake ideas of success. Many pictures are edited. Some people borrow clothes, rent cars or pose in places that do not belong to them. Some appear happy online while facing serious problems at home. When teens believe these images are real, they start to feel unsuccessful too early in life.
The truth is that every Nigerian teen is running a different race. Some come from wealthy homes, some from average homes and others from struggling homes. Some attend private schools; others attend public schools. Some have strong support systems, while others rely on prayers and hard work. Comparing these different lives is unfair and harmful.
To protect their confidence, Nigerian teens must be mindful of how they use social media. Reducing the time spent scrolling can help limit unhealthy comparison. It is also important to remember that what appears online is not the full truth. Teens should focus on improving themselves by reading, learning new skills, building good character and developing their talents. Talking to a trusted adult such as a parent, teacher, school counsellor, pastor, imam or mentor can also help when feelings of sadness arise.
Teenage years are meant for building dreams, not destroying self-worth. You do not need to live in Lekki to matter. You do not need an iPhone to be valuable. You do not need to trend online to have a bright future.
Your background does not define your destination.
Your worth is not measured by likes or followers.
And your confidence should never be built on what you see on social media.
Key takeaways for teens
Social media shows only the best parts of people’s lives, not the full story.
Comparing your life with others online can harm your confidence and happiness.
Your family background does not determine your future success.
Focus on improving yourself instead of competing with others.
If social media makes you feel bad about yourself, take a break and talk to someone you trust.
You are valuable just as you are.
Grace Solomon is a student of Lagooz Schools, Lagos