Anger is something that is inevitable. You are sure to get angry sometimes and it is normal because everyone does. Anger is a normal emotion and there is nothing wrong with being angry. What matters is how we handle it and what we do when we are angry.
Experts said Anger can lead to dangerous situations unless you learn to recognise and manage it.
Managing your anger
Follow the following points by experts
Your first reaction to anger may be to attack, hurt, destroy and defend!
- This can lead to hurting someone, or hurting yourself.
- It can lead to damage to property and making really bad choices that may lead to lasting problems in the future.
To manage anger safely you need self-awareness and selfcontrol.
- Self awareness is the ability to notice what you are feeling and thinking and to work out why. Teens can be self aware.
- Self control is about thinking before you act, and making a choice.
Stop and ask yourself why you are really angry.
- Is it because you are afraid?
- Do you feel you have been treated unfairly?
- Did someone say or do something that embarrassed you?
- Did something hurt your feelings?
- Did you feel a lack of respect for you and your needs?
- Does it remind you of another experience where you were hurt?
The steps to managing anger
Work out why you are angry – put it into words so you can act rather than react –
Think of possible options before you act.
- Maybe you could yell and shout – but would it be helpful?
- Maybe you cheat
Make a decision about which one of your options is the best choice, and act.
- Use a quiet voice to tell what you are feeling
- If anger becomes too much then walk away until you are back in control.
Think about whether this worked and why. Would you do the same again.
